I had a really hard time finding this week’s topic. I even resorted to my last ditch technique, parking myself in the cafeteria in the hopes of overhearing something good. Everyone was only talking about midterms, papers, classes, and how stressed they were.
And then I realized it. Of course I’m having a hard time finding a sexuality topic this week. I’m stressed too, and the last thing on my brain is sex. Midterms have come along and zapped most of the sexy/dirty thoughts from our brains. We’re tired, stressed, hungry and feeling low. Really, this winter is doing us no favours. We’re either eating too little and looking haggard, or eating too much and feeling uncomfortable with how tight those favourite pair of jeans are feeling. Plus, we’re so busy trying to study that, quite frankly, we’re not getting that endorphin rush from working out we normally do. Usually, we feel so confident and sexy after a workout, we want to get down and dirty, even though we know we’re already sweaty.
I’m right there with you. If my partner were to come over tonight, I’d want to just snuggle and inevitably pass out on him instead of making any moves. But, we’re both way too busy studying, so luckily I don’t have to worry about the likelihood of my passing out in the middle of speaking to him about something ridiculous I did that day.
So, I’m going to pass along a tip for you this week that I have found particularly helpful during these stressful times.
First of all, you don’t have to need or want sex 24/7 to be normal. If your partner approaches you and you’re not in the mood, it’s okay to let them know you’re not in the best of moods for sexy times. This doesn’t make you strange, broken, weird or not functioning properly. It just means it’s not the best time for it. Wait until it is.
But, if this really does bother you and you’re feeling low, I have a suggestion for you that I myself do all the time to perk myself up. When you’re studying, you’re exhausted or feeling like you might drop off, stand up and do a hundred squats. It’ll get your blood pumping, you’ll be able to stay awake to finish your work, plus you’ll cut a fantastic figure in those jeans you like to wear so much. Added bonus, you’ll feel a little more confident and that’ll be what will make you less stressed and more up to the fun times in bed.
Remember, sexuality is less about physical standards, and more about emotional and mental ones. If you’re not taking care of your mind, your body will suffer. Now go rock those “reading questions” all night long.
